Style:
Last lesson I spoke of appearance, which many may consider to be known as style as well. However there is a big difference between the two. Style is the fashion part of a persons appearance. It can make a man look like he's James Bond or Pee Wee Herman. I won't judge...but I'll let you decide which has the look you want the ladies to associate you with.
There are many different types of men these days. The working man whose wardrobe consists of mostly suits and many ties because that's how they spice up their look on a daily basis. The man who owns over a hundred t-shirts yet still feels the need to buy more. The man who wears gym clothes like sweats and fruit of the loom white t-shirts mostly because he is too lazy to wear a real outfit because it may not be as comfortable or have a spandex waistline, but also because he feels like he looks like fitness is a big part of his life which in turn would impress the ladies. Ironically some of these guys don't realize that their body tone says the exact opposite. There's a time and a place for all of these types of styles, but you need to use your common sense to know when each is best appropriate.
For a man, style is more easy to accept as something to incorporate into their daily lives rather than fashion. "Fashion" can be a scary word, whereas "style" is not threatening. Men that are into fashion tend to be considered "metrosexual". Or the main one we stereotype as being fashionable are gay men. This scares the typical man away from wanting to keep up with modern trends. Style is nothing to fear. When used properly and correctly it can take a man from being easily looked over, to being the man that women desire or atleast wish their man could learn from, while other men wish they could "pull off that look". Think of the movie Crazy, Stupid Love (I won't tell anyone that you've seen it and if you haven't...GO RENT IT!). When Gosling's character helps Corell's character, there is a complete different aura that is given off. No...it is not realistic what is portrayed, but it does have a lot of truth. Women want a man that exudes confidence, owns his look, and shows that he takes care of himself. It is often a trick us women do. We get all dolled up, wear an outfit that boosts our self esteem, and have a cocky attitude that no man is good enough. We look put together...even if our life is a mess. The point of this is, is that you have no excuse to not look put together despite any personal life disarray. If you are trying to attract a woman...then put your best foot forward. Hopefully that foot will have a nice looking shoe on it :)
Not all men need to have that suave style that 007 or Gosling's character give off. "To each his own", but just decipher which "own" is yours. If your job is working in an office than your wardrobe will consist of mostly suits, however, you can mix it up. Wear a nice v sweater over that button up and tie. Maybe leave the jacket on the coat hanger and sport the suit with a vest. Don't just think that the only way to have a different look is by wearing a variety of ties. Color coordinate those ties with your new v sweater or plaid vest. On the other hand if your job has a "casual Friday" look even on the other days of the week, then don't just wear your favorite shorts or jeans and rotate your top 5 shirts, spruce it up by dressing up every once in a while or wear a casual button up that still gives off a sheek look. Just because you're a man doesn't mean that you can't mix up your looks. A woman likes to know that her business man can also been a mountain man
Some trends to ALWAYS steer clear of: Too matchy matchy. Head to toe black or white or any solid color for that matter is not ok. You're not Johnny Cash, so stop dressing like you're going to a funeral just because you think black is masculine. Never wear a shirt that is a billboard for a label. We may be impressed that you can afford coach or burberry, but we are less impressed that you are showing everyone. Sometimes it's the ones that can't afford that wear these things to pretend that they can. Along the lines of not wearing label plastered attire, please burn any Ed Hardy you may own. Anything that looks like it could be Ed Hardy, just eliminate it completely. It's not ok. NOT OK! Don't wear v-neck t-shirts unless you KNOW you can pull it off. As much as you think your pecks look good in a v neck shirt, the rest of the world really doesn’t want to see that Sasquatch you’ve got growing on your chest. Hair or no hair, put something on underneath or on top of that v neck – a dress shirt, a sweater, something to cover you up. Also, unless you have amazing pecks, it can give you odd looking man boobs. And no ones wants that. If you ever saw the SNL skit with Ben Stiller and the low V neck, well...it was funny for a reason. Men should not be wearing a V solo. Pink...it's still a mystery as to wether it is acceptable for the straight man. Done right, and subtly it looks good. However, if you do attempt this, then be very confident in your manhood and own it. Own that look! Shiny clothing is not for men. Don't ask questions. This is a statement. Men wearing women's jeans. We get you like the skinny jean look and men's departments just don't have the fit you like. Well my friend...it's because the entire male denim world is telling you that this look is highly inappropriate. Just trust that they all know better than you. High waisted denim or tight around the crotch denim...we don't want to see it fellas. We don't need to know if you have a roll of quarters in your pocket or a roll of dimes. This is a major turn off. Lastly, socks with sandals...need I say more. There are several other "styles" that a man should not attempt, but if you have doubts...just ask me :)
If you do not understand style, then just understand classic. There are clothing pieces that will never go "out of style". When questioning something just think...will this still look good to wear in 5 years? You want to focus on staple pieces. These are going to be basics in your wardrobe that you can mix and match in a variety of looks. They will be classic pieces that will make you look good as long as your bod maintains itself to keep that piece looking good. Also, you don't need to be a label whore. However, there’s often a reason companies like Nike are famous for their sneakers, and Burberry
for their Trench coat; they do these things very, very well. You will almost always pay more, but these are staple pieces, and they will last you a long time. Be subtle with your high ticket labels. This shows that you enjoy the finer things without showing it off to everyone. Yet another way to show confidence without saying a word.
Think about the woman you want to attract. Is she a power driven, successful woman? Is she a yoga teacher or athletic type? Is she a beach girl that doesn't own a "power suit"? The woman you want to attract will most likely be attracted to a man that has a similar style to hers. Opposites do attract, but if you're a man always in a t-shirt and board shorts, chances are you're not going to score the digits to the corporate girl you always see at Starbucks. You can get a little sense (sometimes more than others) as to wether they dress like this just for work because they have to, or if this is dominately what they like to portray. Be the man that the woman you want will want.
Keep in mind what you think of someone when you see them. If you see a girl that hasn't shaved in a few weeks, you're slightly turned off (or on. hey...to each his own ;) ). Yet when you men decide you don't want to shave for a few weeks or longer and yet you still expect us women to view you in the same light as when you are clean shaven. I'm not saying facial hair is bad at all. Many men look quite handsome with it. But there are those that just can't pull the look off or just don't understand that it makes you look like a mountain man versus a clean cut man. I won't go on and on about the different looks you men have and the persona you give off, but you should be able to be a pretty good judge with this. Just use some common sense fellas. If you don't have it, feel free to ask :)
Fashion is all about looking and feeling your best, taking risks, and knowing this or that trend isn’t right for you even though everyone’s doing it. Know what you can and can't pull off. If your gut is telling you to not wear something or that a certain style is just not for you, then don't do it. If you need an opinion this is the time you call in those girl friends (note:girl friend(s), not girlfriend). If they say things like "oh...ya, that brings out your eyes" then it's a no(hint:they are focussing on something...anything positive to make you not feel bad about it. Decipher between what compliment they give you to be able to tell). If they say something like "your arms look great" or "wow! that makes you look handsome" or anything else that gets you a look like you're a piece of chocolate, then you know it's a winner. You should be able to tell when your friends are lying or not. At worst, get a lie detector test and hook them up ;) If you can pull off a look that leaves a girl with an impression that you got great style, then you have accomplished way more than most men. It initially is time consuming and can be costly, but think of it as an investment. Even after you find yourself a woman (and if you follow these lessons you will ;) ), if you maintain the impressive look you carry off, it will make you that much hotter and desirable. When a girl sees a man in a committed relationship and still looking great for his woman, it makes women jealous of your woman. And that is bound to boost your confidence :) Focus on finding your own style and what’s comfortable for you. It will benefit you in the long run.
next week: tbd (I'm looking for suggestions)
Last lesson I spoke of appearance, which many may consider to be known as style as well. However there is a big difference between the two. Style is the fashion part of a persons appearance. It can make a man look like he's James Bond or Pee Wee Herman. I won't judge...but I'll let you decide which has the look you want the ladies to associate you with.
There are many different types of men these days. The working man whose wardrobe consists of mostly suits and many ties because that's how they spice up their look on a daily basis. The man who owns over a hundred t-shirts yet still feels the need to buy more. The man who wears gym clothes like sweats and fruit of the loom white t-shirts mostly because he is too lazy to wear a real outfit because it may not be as comfortable or have a spandex waistline, but also because he feels like he looks like fitness is a big part of his life which in turn would impress the ladies. Ironically some of these guys don't realize that their body tone says the exact opposite. There's a time and a place for all of these types of styles, but you need to use your common sense to know when each is best appropriate.
For a man, style is more easy to accept as something to incorporate into their daily lives rather than fashion. "Fashion" can be a scary word, whereas "style" is not threatening. Men that are into fashion tend to be considered "metrosexual". Or the main one we stereotype as being fashionable are gay men. This scares the typical man away from wanting to keep up with modern trends. Style is nothing to fear. When used properly and correctly it can take a man from being easily looked over, to being the man that women desire or atleast wish their man could learn from, while other men wish they could "pull off that look". Think of the movie Crazy, Stupid Love (I won't tell anyone that you've seen it and if you haven't...GO RENT IT!). When Gosling's character helps Corell's character, there is a complete different aura that is given off. No...it is not realistic what is portrayed, but it does have a lot of truth. Women want a man that exudes confidence, owns his look, and shows that he takes care of himself. It is often a trick us women do. We get all dolled up, wear an outfit that boosts our self esteem, and have a cocky attitude that no man is good enough. We look put together...even if our life is a mess. The point of this is, is that you have no excuse to not look put together despite any personal life disarray. If you are trying to attract a woman...then put your best foot forward. Hopefully that foot will have a nice looking shoe on it :)
Not all men need to have that suave style that 007 or Gosling's character give off. "To each his own", but just decipher which "own" is yours. If your job is working in an office than your wardrobe will consist of mostly suits, however, you can mix it up. Wear a nice v sweater over that button up and tie. Maybe leave the jacket on the coat hanger and sport the suit with a vest. Don't just think that the only way to have a different look is by wearing a variety of ties. Color coordinate those ties with your new v sweater or plaid vest. On the other hand if your job has a "casual Friday" look even on the other days of the week, then don't just wear your favorite shorts or jeans and rotate your top 5 shirts, spruce it up by dressing up every once in a while or wear a casual button up that still gives off a sheek look. Just because you're a man doesn't mean that you can't mix up your looks. A woman likes to know that her business man can also been a mountain man
Some trends to ALWAYS steer clear of: Too matchy matchy. Head to toe black or white or any solid color for that matter is not ok. You're not Johnny Cash, so stop dressing like you're going to a funeral just because you think black is masculine. Never wear a shirt that is a billboard for a label. We may be impressed that you can afford coach or burberry, but we are less impressed that you are showing everyone. Sometimes it's the ones that can't afford that wear these things to pretend that they can. Along the lines of not wearing label plastered attire, please burn any Ed Hardy you may own. Anything that looks like it could be Ed Hardy, just eliminate it completely. It's not ok. NOT OK! Don't wear v-neck t-shirts unless you KNOW you can pull it off. As much as you think your pecks look good in a v neck shirt, the rest of the world really doesn’t want to see that Sasquatch you’ve got growing on your chest. Hair or no hair, put something on underneath or on top of that v neck – a dress shirt, a sweater, something to cover you up. Also, unless you have amazing pecks, it can give you odd looking man boobs. And no ones wants that. If you ever saw the SNL skit with Ben Stiller and the low V neck, well...it was funny for a reason. Men should not be wearing a V solo. Pink...it's still a mystery as to wether it is acceptable for the straight man. Done right, and subtly it looks good. However, if you do attempt this, then be very confident in your manhood and own it. Own that look! Shiny clothing is not for men. Don't ask questions. This is a statement. Men wearing women's jeans. We get you like the skinny jean look and men's departments just don't have the fit you like. Well my friend...it's because the entire male denim world is telling you that this look is highly inappropriate. Just trust that they all know better than you. High waisted denim or tight around the crotch denim...we don't want to see it fellas. We don't need to know if you have a roll of quarters in your pocket or a roll of dimes. This is a major turn off. Lastly, socks with sandals...need I say more. There are several other "styles" that a man should not attempt, but if you have doubts...just ask me :)
If you do not understand style, then just understand classic. There are clothing pieces that will never go "out of style". When questioning something just think...will this still look good to wear in 5 years? You want to focus on staple pieces. These are going to be basics in your wardrobe that you can mix and match in a variety of looks. They will be classic pieces that will make you look good as long as your bod maintains itself to keep that piece looking good. Also, you don't need to be a label whore. However, there’s often a reason companies like Nike are famous for their sneakers, and Burberry
for their Trench coat; they do these things very, very well. You will almost always pay more, but these are staple pieces, and they will last you a long time. Be subtle with your high ticket labels. This shows that you enjoy the finer things without showing it off to everyone. Yet another way to show confidence without saying a word.
Think about the woman you want to attract. Is she a power driven, successful woman? Is she a yoga teacher or athletic type? Is she a beach girl that doesn't own a "power suit"? The woman you want to attract will most likely be attracted to a man that has a similar style to hers. Opposites do attract, but if you're a man always in a t-shirt and board shorts, chances are you're not going to score the digits to the corporate girl you always see at Starbucks. You can get a little sense (sometimes more than others) as to wether they dress like this just for work because they have to, or if this is dominately what they like to portray. Be the man that the woman you want will want.
Keep in mind what you think of someone when you see them. If you see a girl that hasn't shaved in a few weeks, you're slightly turned off (or on. hey...to each his own ;) ). Yet when you men decide you don't want to shave for a few weeks or longer and yet you still expect us women to view you in the same light as when you are clean shaven. I'm not saying facial hair is bad at all. Many men look quite handsome with it. But there are those that just can't pull the look off or just don't understand that it makes you look like a mountain man versus a clean cut man. I won't go on and on about the different looks you men have and the persona you give off, but you should be able to be a pretty good judge with this. Just use some common sense fellas. If you don't have it, feel free to ask :)
Fashion is all about looking and feeling your best, taking risks, and knowing this or that trend isn’t right for you even though everyone’s doing it. Know what you can and can't pull off. If your gut is telling you to not wear something or that a certain style is just not for you, then don't do it. If you need an opinion this is the time you call in those girl friends (note:girl friend(s), not girlfriend). If they say things like "oh...ya, that brings out your eyes" then it's a no(hint:they are focussing on something...anything positive to make you not feel bad about it. Decipher between what compliment they give you to be able to tell). If they say something like "your arms look great" or "wow! that makes you look handsome" or anything else that gets you a look like you're a piece of chocolate, then you know it's a winner. You should be able to tell when your friends are lying or not. At worst, get a lie detector test and hook them up ;) If you can pull off a look that leaves a girl with an impression that you got great style, then you have accomplished way more than most men. It initially is time consuming and can be costly, but think of it as an investment. Even after you find yourself a woman (and if you follow these lessons you will ;) ), if you maintain the impressive look you carry off, it will make you that much hotter and desirable. When a girl sees a man in a committed relationship and still looking great for his woman, it makes women jealous of your woman. And that is bound to boost your confidence :) Focus on finding your own style and what’s comfortable for you. It will benefit you in the long run.
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| You can do this with or without a tie. Darker colors will be more forgiving. However, they can only forgive so much. |
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| You can do no tie as well and open a couple buttons. Mix and match colors that are flattering for your skin tone. |
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| Ummm...sexy?? |
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| See! I'm not the only that thinks this ;) |
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| Notice difference in style. Who do you think gets more female attention? |
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| Any woman would want a bite of this (and I'm not even a Gosling fan). |
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| Added style=added confidence=more chances with the ladies. |
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