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Due to a special request this next lesson is going to actual be a variety of date ideas.  A dear girlfriend of mine gave me the suggestion to do a lesson on helping men think of unique date ideas.  She, although happily married now, had quite a few interesting dates in her day (probably due to the fact that she is a great gal...and smokin' hot :) ).  She even mentioned that sometimes she would forget the guy but remembered what an amazing date it was which is what helps her remember the guy.  Hopefully none of them will see this and damage their ego :)  So stay tuned gentlemen for your next dating tips advice.

First Date Etiquette

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The first date is crucial to show her that chivalry is not dead nor is it comatose.  No, this does not mean you need to rescue her from the fire breathing dragon on your white stallion, but it does mean that you will open the door for her, pull the chair out, and lend her your coat if it's cold.  There is nothing wrong with being a complete gentleman.  These days women don't get the proper treatment often enough.  Be the one to prove to her that you are the man and you will treat her like the lady she is.  With that said... "A gentleman never leaves a lady waiting", aka: be on time!  There's a good possibility she may not be ready (some women tend to run late from spending too much time getting all dolled up for her "hot date"...or so I've heard {I, on the other hand am ALWAYS on time ;) }, but heaven forbid you are late, it will definitely not be a good way to start out your date (this is along the lines of "do as I say and not as I do...

First Step

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Be the man with a plan!  A woman loves a man that shows the initiative to take charge.  Even a woman that can be dominant still likes to see the man be a "man".  She does not want to be picked up for a date and then be asked "so what do you feel like eating?" or "know of any good restaurants?".  Know exactly where you are going to take her and know exactly what your plans will be for after the meal portion of the date.  (note: dates don't always have to consist of dinner and after dinner event.  Some of the best dates are the ones that are very creative and catch her completely off guard...in a good way.)  One thing that is an absolute must is that you pay.  You asked her out.  So no "going dutch" or "split this" or "I'll get the tickets and you get the drinks".  It is custom that the man pay.  Don't get all women's rights on a first date just because it suits your wallet.  Before you even plan the date, talk t...

First Impression

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It's known that men are more visual while women are more mental/emotional. So this gives good looking guys a chance to prove they're more than just "another pretty face" and the not so good looking guys a way to get with a girl that would otherwise be "out of [his] league".  Have you ever thought to yourself "dude, this chic is so into me!" and then she gives you the wrong number or pulls the "I have a boyfriend" line.  In a psychology study, it showed that most men thought women were more into them then what they really were.  The men did not focus on the body language, but more on the appearance of her face and clothing and the body language they wanted to see.  This mistake that many men make then leads to various measures of sexual aggression.   This can be simply solved...focus on a woman's emotional interest to give you the hint (either good or bad) she is subtly conferring to you...without saying it out loud.  You want to make ...
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Style: Last lesson I spoke of appearance, which many may consider to be known as style as well.  However there is a big difference between the two.  Style is the fashion part of a persons appearance.  It can make a man look like he's James Bond or Pee Wee Herman.  I won't judge...but I'll let you decide which has the look you want the ladies to associate you with.  There are many different types of men these days.  The working man whose wardrobe consists of mostly suits and many ties because that's how they spice up their look on a daily basis.  The man who owns over a hundred t-shirts yet still feels the need to buy more.  The man who wears gym clothes like sweats and fruit of the loom white t-shirts mostly because he is too lazy to wear a real outfit because it may not be as comfortable or have a spandex waistline, but also because he feels like he looks like fitness is a big part of his life which in turn would impress the ladies.  Iron...

Appearance

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"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".  Not every woman will view a man's appearance the same.  We all have different types and may be more or less attracted to a man than the girl next to her might be.  However, there is still that initial "Yes! Give me some of that!" or "He's alright.  I'd take him.", even the "naahhhh...not for me", and the one you never want "Ugh! No thank you!  How dare he check me out!".  And don't judge us for having these reactions men...you know you're reactions with initial physical appearance to us women is far more descriptive...both good and bad :)  Sometimes we are not proud that we think this way, but that is why as decent human beings we typically don't verbalize our opinions out loud (unless it's to our girlfriend of course ;) ).  The appearance is by far not the most important necessity in a relationship, but it can be a dealbreaker with getting the initial attention of the...

Online Dating-

It use to be that online dating was something your mom or dad did and you genuinely were embarrassed for them.  Now you find yourself signed up on several sites and looking for more to join.  One site is not enough and then you get into a contract and have no way out.  However things just keep failing with every attempt for a new hope with a new site.  But maybe the problem stems from your profile.  This is, however, what the girl sees and reads to get to "know" you.  If she can't get past the pics or the screen name, then there's no way she will give the real you a chance.  So make her want to get to know more.  Get her excited that there's hope too, because most likely she is feeling hopeless with all the "good matches" she is finding.  Here are a few pointers that can guide you when creating...or updating your profile: 1.  Pick a good screen name.  A creative one.  Not one like "hotforyou" or "sexyandIknowit"....